There are a number of questions many people will ask themselves before seeking a counsellor and here are some of the most frequently asked questions
Do I need counselling?
When first contacting me, many of my clients wanted to know if they needed counselling. Some have asked me in a straightforward fashion and others have told me their issue and then asked if this is something I can help them with. As a psychotherapist, very rarely have I had a client tell me directly that they need counselling. So it would seem this is a very common question to be asked and not one that can be simply answered without hearing what someone is looking for to deal with the issues they are facing.
What I can say is, asking for help can be so very frightening and if you have made your way onto this website looking for an answer to this this question, then I would like to ask you a question: Would you like someone to support you through the current predicament you find yourself in? No matter how big or small you feel your issue may be I am qualified to listen with the greatest level of care and respect.
If I come for counselling will it work for me?
This is said to be the most common question a person will ask themselves when looking for a counsellor.
Counselling will bring different experiences and outcomes for different people, however studies by the International Center For Excellence www.centerforclinicalexcellence.com have been carried out and have concluded that 80% of the people they studied felt they were in a better place than before they had started counselling.
How do I pick the right counsellor?
Making the decision to see a counsellor in the first place can be very daunting in its own right. When it comes to making a choice of which counsellor to work with, the ways in which they work, at what price and location – it can seem so overwhelming.
The counsellor may have a specific way of working or may even work in a number of different ways. Many will know the saying ‘you can lead a horse to water’ but half the battle (in fact 80%) of the most important work is to do with the relationship you have with your counsellor as you will need to feel safe enough to explore your feelings with them without feeling judged. I therefore feel the best way to find a good counsellor is by making appointments with several and meeting them before you make a final choice. The counsellor that makes you feel the most at ease when talking to them is the right counsellor for you.
Do I have to work with my childhood?
This is a question that is not for me to answer. Working with your past could feel necessary to you or not. I provide counselling that is aimed to be the most comfortable and right for you and in a way that you are happy.